Challenge of Biblical Proportions!

This may or may not be your cup of tea, but I have been busy!

I set myself a lifetime goal some years ago to read the bible from start to finish.  Not just for religious or faithful purpose, but a look at our culture, our history, and our life.  Its taken me till now, but I am finally in Isaiah. There are some books I rather enjoyed, some that read like radio manuals, one that was pure fairy tale (fun!) and some that were motivational.

To keep me at it, I started a facebook group where I can post favored verses as I go.  https://www.facebook.com/biblethumper101/ if your interested!

I do rather enjoy my bible time, from verses that talk about making new friends but letting them age like wine to see if they are worth anything, to being smart about finances! Loving your neighbour and keeping faith for your heart.  Also, death, macabre, horrifying plagues. You know, all in a days read 😉

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Be THAT Mom

I am so tired of seeing all the mom blogs about not showering for a week straight is acceptable, where showing up to drop off your kids in spit up clothes is the everyday, and not giving a shit is ok.

Let me be clear, this is not.  That is letting it go, loosing sight of the cause and not having motivation.  Yes, sometimes, and occasionally, this can happen.  But not for months on end, please, if this happens.  Give the kids to the grandparents, tell your husband to go out with his friends and take a break! Do what you want! Revive! Then get back on the horse, fold the laundry before it wrinkles, wash the dishes that ARE DONE soaking, tidy up and find your house.  If you can relax, who else can?

But enough beating the horse with the broken whip.  My whole point is to be THAT mom, the one that has her shit together, that is motivated, that is a role model and is setting up her children to be great.

  • If you see a mess, clean it up or find a plan for everyone to help out
  •  Plan your meals for the week! Have taco Tuesday! Sit everyone down for a meal, discuss the day, model good habits and show your love!
  • Healthy food and snacks.  Do your kids go for chips? Have healthy fruits, veggies, cheese, or healthy crackers out for a crunch.  Crave sweets? Try home made sweet teas, dried fruits, homemade granola bars.  Yes, plan baking days, then freeze extras for treats later on! Follow the food guide, attend classes for ideas, be creative!
  • If you need sleep, start getting it! Go to bed a bit early, put down the book/phone, and get your rest, which turns momster into mommy!
  • Alcohol is for moderation, holidays, and maybe a friday with the girls.  Not for binge drinking, making into cupcakes, or reminiscing about the old times every day at happy hour.  Grow up, you don’t need alcohol to function.
  • Put the kids in a playpen (hello!!! its  pen they can play in!) and take two minutes for a shower.  Feeling clean makes a world of difference
  • Take five minutes, fill the sink with soapy water and clean the kitchen.  Not only does it teach the kids to see that cleaning happens, having a sticky free table, fingerprint gone fridge, and crumb free counter helps!
  • Get plants, and water them once a week.  Get the kids to help! They not only learn about life, but having a  weekly watering day puts things it perspective.
  • Make the damn bed! No only does it perk up the bedroom, taking two seconds to straighten the sheets is enough to make you feel better.
  • You smoke? Don’t do it around your kids! Second hand smoke messes with their lungs, brain development, motor skills and skin growth.  Smarten up, your bad habits don’t need to affect two lives!
  • Exercise! Do yoga, or pila ties! Moves for 20 mins a day, over an hour a week! Go for walks, bike rides, play Kinect, dance parties, just move and get fit!
  • Make a weekly plan! If your a stay at home mom, plan your days, make outtings, cleaning days, purpose.  If your working, then plan your days! You only see your kids for three hours before bed, make it worth it! Plan a day or two out a month.
  • When your children pick up bad habits, instead of Instagram-ing how cute it is, start modeling how you want them to behave
  • If your child is starting behaviors you don’t agree with, work with them on it! They are little people who need guidance, not yelling, betterment, punishment or ignorance.
  • Find a project or a goal with your child.  Reading three books before bed? Make a chart and show it off!  Trying to make a greenhouse? Take before and after projects! Make it worthy, fun, and fulfilling!

The most important thing to remember is you choose this.  If it was an accident, you choose to keep it and make a child! If you planned it, you choose to be a parent from day one!  You married someone with children? You choose to accept them past, present for your future! Step up! Be motivated! Be the role model for your children! They are going to grow up and be the future, take care of the world.

Do you want to teach them how to get by and survive? Or to step up, be the change, and be what you want your children to be! Are you preparing the world for your child? or preparing your child for the world?

Be THAT mom! You can do it 😉

7 Year Itch 3 Year Glitch

I’ve heard it from movies, books, friend.  A turning point in relationships where people stop working, start giving up, or moving on.  I’ve heard from others “we married in our 20’s, and then we hit thirty and moved unto our own separate paths”.  Ive seen marriages fail after five years, two years, one.

Not everything that is bonded will last.

Not everything that is promised is kept.

But last night I had a dream.  I was at a big work site, and met a guy, so charming, we had an immediate connection.  After working with this guy for several days I could hardly see myself not hanging with him.  As we were being transported back home he gave me a hug and said ‘if only you weren’t married, I would be with you right now’. Married…. married? Yes, in my dream I was married.  Yes, then I went home, and saw this guy who I didn’t know, who I could hardly understand let alone care for.  Who didn’t care that I walked in the door.  “If only you weren’t married” echoed in my head.

BEEP BEEP BEEP

Alarm, I roll over, and see my husband.  We have been together for 7 years, married for four. I loved him.  Even though we have been together passed the three year glitch, the four year snooze, the seven year itch.  We still find ways to make sex fun, to hang out in the evenings, to give each other space, and then smile when we walk in the door.  Though I don’t always like his past or his mistakes, I promised to love and always help.  I wanna see him grow old.  Unlike my dream, I’m not married to some guy.  I married the one I couldn’t be without, and we will fight the 7 year itch 🙂

Shawl to Shrug!

I made a shawl for my cousins wedding about 7 years ago, and it was a terrible yarn that kept breaking as I knit, it was too square and too rough.  I wore it with pride though!

But lately I wanted to wear a shrug, but I wasn’t happy with any pattern, and with how busy I am with orders, I knew I didn’t have the time to commit.  Then I recalled my old shawl, and saw a pattern for a shrug! Bingo

I picked up the sides, knit along a circular knitting needle with a soft creamy color, and two days later I had a shrug! Comfy and it came up exactly as I hoped!

How to Understand Infertility: A Story

Imagine, if you can, if you will, that you are a post graduate student.  You have studied, taken courses, passed exams, all with flying colors, in your chosen field. In fact, you were the student that usually helped others on with their assignments, you seemed to be an expert no matter what.  This was in the bag! You were meant to do this!

Fast forward the summer after graduation,  you got a job lined up, its fantastic.  You cant wait to begin, you just have to ace the interview.  You show up on time, day of, dressed to impress.  You get ushered into the office, the new boss seems fantastic.  As usual you seem to pass with flying colors, afterwards they want to check a few last things, and you are asked to have  a seat.  The door closes and you can hear hushed voices. Suddenly out of the blue a swaggering nobody, dressed like the streets, comes waltzing in.  They give you a sarcastic, happy but obviously swirling on luck, look and go to the door, in the door and the door closes. Loud exclamations come from inside, cheering, like its the party you’ve been waiting for.  After a few minutes the boss kicks his head out “uh… position filled, you can go… don’t leave your resume”.  Door slams.  In a confused, dazed state you are torn between yelling at the boss that YOU deserve this job, YOU were meant for this job, what the HECK just happened!!!!  The secretary laughing comes out from the room and sees you standing in a daze. She obviously thinks you know what happened “OMG didn’t you hear! Hashtag awesome, this person, no experience, no education, she just got here, and its going to work out! Why are you still here? Do you know where the door is?”

Walk out

Go home

Try and figure out the next step

You did everything right, you passed the exams.  You were the best choice…. why did that other person get it? Its not fair, its not right

 

That ‘s life.  The woman who passes all the fertility exams, who is told by the doctors they are perfectly healthy, they can conceive, yet for months, years, they sit by and watch other people get their job, their career, their mother hood.  They may just have the luck, the timing, or heck maybe they weren’t even trying or expected to.

How do you behave, act, carry on, when every day other people, maybe just as experienced, or having none, get your job? That you dream of, yearn for, die for?

Good luck, we are all rooting for you.

 

Why I HATE the Alphabet Song

It always makes me cringe to hear a toddler, kindergardener, preschooler or other young child burst into the traditional “A, B, C…”.  Now, its not that I dislike kids singing, or off key tunes, its the song itself I dislike.

As a preschool teacher of six years, this song has no educational value.  Its not teaching children how their vowels sound, or what sound CAT starts with, its just a sing song chant with the letters names.  This can confuse a child who is just starting to identify letters and their sounds.  A doesn’t say Ay, it says aaaa. If you know anyone under five years of age, it can be quite a situation when they believe they are saying it right, and it can lead to problems in school when they start trying to learn phonetically and  C A T doesn’t read cat, it reads,  See-ay-tee.  Yes, I have seen this.  Or, worse even, they try to just memorize words.  So reading goes ” c…. a…. t….  Tap!”, where instead of reading phonetically, they assume the last sound is a whole word to fill in the blank.

Another problem, is the children tend to combine sounds together to make new letters (and I have heard four year olds arguing over this one).  When they get to the letter L in the song.  Example “H, I, J, K, LMNO, P”.  They tend to think that it is all one letter, and funnily enough they will say it with such a flourish that they can convince anyone.  But, again, its teaching the sounds incorrectly.

Now, there are other great songs that introduce children to the proper sounds (that go great flash cards and objects) such as A says Ah.  These I love hearing! Especially when they hit the letter h with Ha Ha Ha!

Now, yes I dislike the song, but only when it comes to people teaching children the alphabet with this song, or teaching this song before they understand their letters or sounds.  Good luck out there!

10 Things I Learning from being an Ocarina Tutor

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So, a bit of a background, I love ocarinas and flute intstruments.  I decided since I have played for years that I would try and pass on my skills, tips and tricks onto other eager ocarina enthusiasts! But I learned a lot:

1) With a society that loves quick results, so many people seem to think it will take only a few lessons for awesome results.  It will take months or years to get amazing results, unfortunately.  This is something I try to explain to my students when we first begin, though most students will think that they can be the next rising star, and this is where most of the problems come from.

2) Most students are only attending to learn that ONE song, forgetting that there are skills, techniques, and that we have to learn those simple songs before we can melt out songs.

3) Everyone has a problem area.  Including myself!

4) To always prepare a variety of pieces for the student to choose from.

5) Yes, I have silly techniques, but yes, I know from my own flute lessons that they DO WORK! And you have to stick by them.

6) All students get frustrated, but it helps to show them the light at the end of the tunnel.

7) Eventually all students think they can do better than you, sometimes they just never show up again, sometimes they turn impatient, and sometimes, just sometimes, you get those special students who will stick through to the end…. and come back for more!

8) Take the chance for odd requests to grow your music stash!

9) Not all students can read music, and will need finger charts/tabs before it clicks in.  But making good notes with cheats can help them learn!

10) Not all students will come out victorious.  But if you can walk away learning something, and knowing they have gained at least ONE thing, hold your head high!